Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have. (Quote)

The Trap of Hedonistic Adaptation & Ways to Access More Regular Happiness

You win the award, get the promotion, hit the bestseller list, marry the person of your dreams, move into the house of your dreams.  18 months.  This is about the max amount of time we get to feel the euphoria of something great happening in our lives, and typically it’s even less time than that.  Even lottery winners who often …

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Trust The Process

TTP.  These 3 letters changed my life.  My professor Dr Clay wrote them on a chalkboard 20 years ago in a graduate school class I was taking. TRUST THE PROCESS he taught us fledgling counselors filled with self-doubt on the cusp of seeing “real patients”. Whenever we are learning something new, or facing the prospect of change and jumping into …

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Practicing Open Heartedness

I’ve been making Valentine’s with my daughter Gretta who is obsessed with hearts.  She is drawn to anything with hearts: heart socks, heart cereal, heart stickers, heart hair clips.  Gretta might be one of the most open-hearted and loving people I know, so her affinity to hearts isn’t shocking. What does being open hearted mean?  When you are around someone …

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Empowered Pregnancy Summit

  While many woman love being pregnant, it was a struggle for me.  The changes in my body, the rush of hormones, the intense emotions, the fears….it was all so intense! Despite diligently preparing for each birth, none of them went the way I imagined, requiring me to work with disappointment and ultimately acceptance.  I had friends also sharing in …

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The Point of Therapy

Elizabeth Lesser writes so beautifully about therapy and why it can be useful.  She is having a conversation with her sister, Maggie, who has been recently diagnosed with cancer, about why they should go to therapy together to work through past challenges between them and to prepare them for an upcoming bone marrow transplant where Lesser is the perfect match. …