Not Enough Light: 6 Tips for Restlessness in Early Winter

Day light savings has been hard on my family.  Driving my kids home from school last week around 4:30PM, when the light was already waning and evening quickly setting in, my son Jack asked from the back seat, “When is the darkest day of the year?”  I was surprised by the foreboding tone of my voice when I uttered, “Oh, …

Surrender Is the Key in Autumn

Happy Fall Equinox!  The 4 juncture points when the seasons change all carry their own unique energy.  Winter is reprieve, Spring is rebirth, Summer is play, and Fall is surrender.  Today marks the start of a period of letting go. I’ve always struggled with Fall, this season of death.  Mid-August I begin to feel agitated and unsettled, that familiar sense …

Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have. (Quote)

The Trap of Hedonistic Adaptation & Ways to Access More Regular Happiness

You win the award, get the promotion, hit the bestseller list, marry the person of your dreams, move into the house of your dreams.  18 months.  This is about the max amount of time we get to feel the euphoria of something great happening in our lives, and typically it’s even less time than that.  Even lottery winners who often …

Cars with light on driving in Fog

Trust The Process

TTP.  These 3 letters changed my life.  My professor Dr Clay wrote them on a chalkboard 20 years ago in a graduate school class I was taking. TRUST THE PROCESS he taught us fledgling counselors filled with self-doubt on the cusp of seeing “real patients”. Whenever we are learning something new, or facing the prospect of change and jumping into …

Fingerprints in a heart shape

Practicing Open Heartedness

I’ve been making Valentine’s with my daughter Gretta who is obsessed with hearts.  She is drawn to anything with hearts: heart socks, heart cereal, heart stickers, heart hair clips.  Gretta might be one of the most open-hearted and loving people I know, so her affinity to hearts isn’t shocking. What does being open hearted mean?  When you are around someone …