Antidote to Perfectionism

I always say that I am a recovered perfectionist, but just like any other addiction, it’s something I have to continually manage.  For me it turns up as a tight body, a running commentary in my head about doing things “right”, self-condemnation when I don’t measure up to my own high standards, and fear of failing which sometimes paralyzes me …

Follow Your Bliss

Most of us know the famous quote “Follow your bliss….” coined by the great mythologist Joseph Campbell.  I’ve always loved this idea but have honestly NEVER practiced it. I have a fairly practical orientation to life.  I have responsibilities, a schedule, businesses to run, children to raise, appointments to keep, and an ongoing barrage of household tasks that never end. …

Not Enough Light: 6 Tips for Restlessness in Early Winter

Day light savings has been hard on my family.  Driving my kids home from school last week around 4:30PM, when the light was already waning and evening quickly setting in, my son Jack asked from the back seat, “When is the darkest day of the year?”  I was surprised by the foreboding tone of my voice when I uttered, “Oh, …

Cars with light on driving in Fog

Trust The Process

TTP.  These 3 letters changed my life.  My professor Dr Clay wrote them on a chalkboard 20 years ago in a graduate school class I was taking. TRUST THE PROCESS he taught us fledgling counselors filled with self-doubt on the cusp of seeing “real patients”. Whenever we are learning something new, or facing the prospect of change and jumping into …